Little things that count
Oct 26 2020 11:42 AM

Any woman loves details, little displays of affection, unexpected behaviors that make clear something has reminded you of her, that she is in your mind, that you would like to do things with her. Singles trying to establish a relationship through online dating websites would do well to remember this because it will help them succeed.

Of course, not all women are the same, but most love their partner or the guy who hopes to earn that title to give them small gifts. These must not necessarily be purchased items: what is more important is the time/effort you put into it, and the intention guessed behind your gesture. The simple fact of taking the time to plan something for you to do together is a present, and they might value it over the planned activity itself!

If contact with your dream single woman is still limited to Live chat or phone calls, you can score some points by sending or mentioning a sentence (a quote, a song verse, etc.), and tell her why it reminded you of her. Another possibility is sending a surprise email with a link, a sound file, or an image of something she might enjoy (e.g. a link to one of her favorite artist’s videos). You can also pay compliments, hopefully with some originality, and always-always-always rise to the occasion when you are given the chance to act gentlemanly: this never goes out of fashion. In any case, during the first phase of the relationship, you would better behave discreetly and moderately, so as to avoid intruding or appearing invasive.

Once you are on friendly terms and contact is frequent, at that point where signs of evident reciprocal interest have been exchanged and emotions seem to be gaining ground, you can move forward a bit. Maybe you have not met yet, so best keep to the same line, but with more dedication on your part. We all have a creative disposition; for you, it could be music, photography, arts & crafts, writing, etc., so why not take advantage of it?

When things seem to work nicely after some dates in the real world, you can go for physical objects or things that require more time/planning/skill. For instance, a college or mini scrapbook about the relationship up to now, starting with your online dating website profile pictures and a few key messages exchanged there, something that reminds you of the first calls, mementos from the first date, meaningful anecdotes to share and preserve e.g. it is likely you have surprised each other at some point, etc.

There are many possibilities, considering your skills, preferences (and hers!) and the chances that come up: a plant you have grown, a poem, a home-made cake if you go on a picnic... The thing is to remember showing these gestures of appreciation and love now and then.

Going to the movies is another traditional choice, often sought by lovers of the big screen and the performing arts, by those who speak little, by people who prefer to rest comfortably after a hard-working day. If both of you are passionate about cinema, this is clearly a good option: you will not only have a good time during the show but also find conversation easier afterward. You might even spot a film club or some other off-beat venue that is definitely not the same old theater, thus giving a twist to your standard movie-watching date. Some concerts but not the crowded & loud type, comic shows and musicals fall into this category, too.

It is always advisable to tread carefully and go step by step on the first dates. Always meeting in public places on our first initial date is best.